Oh, Girlfriend!

On Sunday, I met up with an old college friend for a late dinner. I hadn't seen her in 11 years. Wow! I can't believe it even as I write it here. We had become fast friends and we were roommates for one semester after I had studied abroad. After college, we lost touch. Eleven years, three kids and a husband later (for her and I) we finally caught up with each other thanks to good ol' Facebook. I was so happy to see and hear from her again. Everyday I am reminded of how lucky I am to have had and still have such a solid group of girlfriends in my life. Although I can't keep a plant alive for the life of me (in fact, I don't even own one) I think I have done fairly well in maintaining friendships. I'd like to believe that I'm a loyal friend. Sure, it's become more difficult over these last few years, but I'm talking about quality, not necessarily quantity here. I still keep in touch with a great friend I met in third grade. I see and talk to friends from high school and college days as much as I can. One-time co-workers have become best friends and like part of my family, even becoming Godparents to my daughter A. Just as recent as two years ago I stumbled upon a group of five incredible city moms after I had B and was preparing to go back to work. Little did I know that I would appreciate their friendship as much as I do today.

Friendships are truly serendipitous. I can't count on how many occasions my friends have been there for me. Sometimes in ways that they probably didn't even realize just how much it meant to me. Just recently, those familiar faces were mixed in a crowd of family and friends at the twins' first birthday party. In one overwhelming moment I paused and acknowledged that all of them were here to share yet another special moment with us, as many have done over the years. Old friends hold a special place in our hearts because they know who you were and what you have become; and through it all they have remained. Yes, our lives change and so do these relationships. And yes, time may pass without seeing or speaking to friends, but if any of them needed me today I'd be there in a heartbeat, just as I was on Sunday. But girlfriend, just don't ask me to take care of any of your plants.